Do What You CAN Do

Maybe you CAN’T do it anymore.

A little insight into the world of disability here: sometimes we really hate it!

I do consider myself blessed because even after a stroke and multiple joint replacements, I can still talk, write and get out and about. Slower than most but I can still do it.

There are some things that I can’t do anymore. Like anything for more than an hour or two. I can’t ride a bike or sit on a blanket at a concert with my family. I can’t skydive anymore which has really put a crimp in my life. Ahhh, no. That would be some Fake News.

Did you see that 97-year-old man who did a tandem sky dive over Normandy this week? God bless him! My knees hurt just watching the video.

I have learned over the past few years that you have to focus on what you CAN do. I don’t think you ever stop missing the things you can’t do anymore, but for your own mental health, and the happiness of those you live with, you have to force yourself to look for other possibilities.

I started my own website because I had to have a place where I could speak out and share my wacky random thoughts. I have really focused on my writing because I can do that anywhere. At my desk or comfy on my couch with my tablet.

I’ve started to really focus on what’s around me and take pictures of the things I see. I read books and many articles on line. While some may say “He spends hours on the internet,” I like to say, “Yes. And I learn things.” I planted my garden and doubled it in size this year.

What CAN you do?

You can just Google “volunteer options near me” and instantly you’ll find opportunities. Maybe you could volunteer at your church. Secretarial help or just ask your pastor or priest about visiting those that could use a friend.

What did you do for years? Maybe someone could use your advice or make yourself available so they can “pick your brain.” Look for a Facebook group or maybe there’s a website with a discussion group for a certain profession. Again, just Google whatever it is you’re looking for. “Car repair questions” or “legal advice” or whatever you spent your life learning and loving.

I know how frustrating it can be. When I was younger and struggled with any phase of my broadcasting I would just work harder or prepare better. When I played sports, if I needed improvement anywhere, (which I did) I would practice more. When a disability strikes it’s no longer a case of working harder or practicing more. You CAN’T do it. So adjust. You’ll only find bitterness and depression if you don’t.

What have you always wanted to do? If you can physically do it then go for it. Consider all possibilities. You just might find the best adventure yet.